Here’s a little story:
There was a society of women that decided to live together for one year. Each had a room in the house, lived together, ate together, and made friends. Everything was smooth sailing until one of the women, Catherine, noticed something one day.
“It seems like Mary is mad with me,” Catherine said, and she swiftly worked on a letter to send to Mary to ask if she was down or mad with her.
Mary received the letter later in the day and was surprised. She took it as an act of aggression towards her and was puzzled by what could have caused Catherine to write the letter. Mary had never felt down or angry, so why would Catherine think such a thing?
Mary didn’t respond to the letter, but tried to ignore it. But, later in the day, when Catherine was joking about a guest in the house, Mary took it with the anger that she already felt toward Catherine and decided to tell the guest exactly what Catherine had said–even though the hurtful things had been in jest. Mary soon found out and was outraged that Catherine would do such a thing.
That’s when Mary went to Loraine to tell her what was going on. Loraine, being friends with both Catherine and Mary, was not eager to choose a side. She told Catherine to “be the bigger person”.
“But I’ve been the bigger person for far too long. She’s angry with me, and now she’s treating me horribly!” Catherine cried.
Loraine shook her head, hoping that things would die down as Catherine left the room to write another letter to Mary.
Mary received the second later and became even angrier than she had before. Why had this girl thought she was mad in the first place? Well, yes, Mary was now angry, and she had told the guest Catherine’s words because of the anger, but she did not feel at fault. Reading the letter, Catherine explained that she was now angry with Mary rather than just concerned, and Mary didn’t know what to do.
She, too, searched after Loraine for guidance and advice. Loraine could offer none, not knowing that the second letter had been sent and received.
And that’s where we leave off for tonight.